Feeling Lost Is Part of the Process

Hey everyone—today I want to talk about something people don’t say enough: it’s okay to feel lost, to not know what the fuck to do next, or to feel so overwhelmed you just want to step away. That doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

I just graduated high school, and I’m working at least 22 hours a week to help support myself and save up for things that make me happier. Lately, I’ve been taking guitar lessons for the past couple of months, and I’m all in on focusing on that. I’m even thinking about buying some expensive guitars because it fits perfectly with my podcast business. Guitar and music tie into what I’m building creatively and professionally, so it feels right to put my energy there.

Sometimes you’ve been grinding at something and it’s just not working anymore. You’re not seeing progress, and mentally it’s wrecking you. You want to quit or take a break. I say do it. That activity might be burning you out, not building you up. And you should not feel bad about it.

Now let’s talk about decisions—how they can fucking drain you. You’ve got options, expectations, pressure—and sometimes it’s too much. You freeze up. And then someone tells you you’re not doing enough, or you get treated like shit on a phone call with some program you qualified for. Sometimes you don’t even want to be on that program, but people keep forcing you to be on those calls. You hang up. You walk away. Good. Protect your energy. And if feeling a little arrogant or fed up because of all that is the price you pay? So be it. You’re allowed to feel that way.

And if someone wants to say you’re being dramatic or lazy or whatever—they can go fuck themselves. Yeah, I said it. Because those people don’t know what it’s like to carry what you’re carrying.

Some of you might call me crazy for saying all this. That’s fine. But if someone’s already overwhelmed and you pile on with “You’re not doing well,” you’re part of the problem.

If someone has made it this far, if they’re still standing, still trying—they’re strong as hell. You don’t always see the weight people are carrying, but that commentary? That judgment? It stacks up. And it breaks people.

So let’s cut the bullshit. If you’re doing your best, I see you. Keep going—and don’t let anyone tell you how your progress is supposed to look.

Feel free to reach out anytime at dylan@dylanserpico.com.